I remarried. My new wife has a daughter. Eleven years I sought to build bridges. I would always satisfy her. Her best private schools were paid for by me. She still hated me.
A few months ago, she told my wife she was leaving on her 18th birthday. No goodbye, thanks, or lookback. Cold quiet. Our wife cried that night. I spoke little. I just gave her water and remained alongside her until she fell asleep.
I was hurting too. I never intended to replace her dad, but I wanted to be reliable. I took daughter to dentist appointments, helped with school assignments, and clapped loudest at performances over the years. I was there. Always. She never let me in.
Her name is Livia. Like her mother, smart and headstrong. Her barriers were always high, especially around me. Time might soften her, I thought. She might remark “Thank you” or “You’re not so bad.” The moment never came.
Till something unexpected happened.
March 18 was Livia’s birthday. She left the next day as promised. No party, no cake. Just texted her mom, “I’m gone.” Do not worry.” She left no forwarding address.
Ana, my wife, was distraught. She texted Livia daily. Most messages were read, some ignored, and a few replied “fine” or “busy.”
Stayed out. I knew my presence would just make things worse. But I fretted. The world is big. Livia had never lived alone.
One May night, Ana’s phone rang at 1:30 a.m. It was Livia. Crying. No idea what to do. Some roommate stole her stuff and locked her out. I grabbed the keys as Ana panicked.
“Let’s go,” I said. Ana pulled on a sweater while half-asleep. We didn’t inquire. They traveled across town to an apartment building they had never seen.
There she was. Curbside seating. Carrying a duffel. Shivering. Her cheeks with mascara. My wife rushed to hug her. Livia stayed put.
She initially ignored me. Avoiding eye contact. I let her into the car. She slipped in silently.
She showered long at home. Teamaker Ana. No questions. I left fresh towels on the bathroom counter.
She stayed in the guest room that night. The next morning, she was gone.
Again.
No note. An empty bed.
Ana was devastated. Why is she doing this? What keeps her running?
I had no answers. Something told me this was different. Livia wasn’t fleeing hate. She was afraid. Possibly ashamed.
I received an email a week later.
From her.
The subject was “Thank You.”
Shaking hands, I opened it.
It was short. About four or five lines. She apologised last night. She said she had nowhere else to go. She thanked me for coming. She concluded: “I still don’t know how to feel about you. I notice your concern. And that counts.”
I kept that email for days. I didn’t reply. I wanted to avoid saying the wrong thing, not because I didn’t want to. Silence sometimes suffices.
A few weeks passed. Life continued on. Livia received fewer texts from Ana. Livia offered a couple more brief updates.
Ana fell ill in July. It started as a cold but persisted. The fever persisted. She was too exhausted to get up.
We saw a doctor. Then hospital. The testing followed.
It was pneumonia. An ugly case.
Livia arrived immediately after learning. No warning. Carrying a grocery bag of vitamin drinks and soup packages, entered.
She lingered in Ana’s room for hours. Talking gently. Stroking her hair. She reads her phone.
Keeping my distance. I cooked. Cleaned. Silenced the home.
I heard her exclaim, “You’re all I have, Mama,” as I passed the door. Sorry I was a brat.”
Ana chuckled. She laughed for the first time in days.
I noticed a note on the kitchen counter the next morning. From Livia.
Going to get your meds. Do not worry. Im not running.”
That one line altered.
From so on, Livia visited often. Dropping off groceries sometimes. Staying overnight sometimes. Though she seldom spoke to me, it wasn’t frigid anymore. It was neutral.
A victory.
We were in the kitchen one night. Ana slept upstairs.
Livia entered as I chopped carrots for soup.
“You cook a lot,” she observed.
I looked up, astonished she spoke first. “Yeah. I always liked it.”
She nods. Without looking at me, she remarked, “I remember when I was 12 and had that surgery. You made weird pancake shapes.”
I grinned. “You only ate star-shaped ones.”
She grinned. Still my favorite.”
It was little. But it meant everything.
She sat at the table while I prepared that night. I learned about her part-time work. A downtown cafe. Liked the manager. Said clients were largely friendly.
She said she slept on a friend’s couch for a month. After her roommate left, she couldn’t afford the whole rent.
I delayed helping. I didn’t want her to think I was “buying” her again.
Ana recommended we give her the guest room a few days later.
I concurred. Nervous but hopeful.
Livia agreed.
Everything changed then.
Living together altered us. Slowly. Naturally.
Helped with dishes. Take Ana to appointments as I worked. Sometimes we watched shows together.
We once debated the best Stranger Things season. There was no fight. A fun conversation. And it felt natural.
She requested my lasagna recipe one Sunday. Cooked together. It started awkwardly. She spilled cheese twice. I nearly burned sauce.
But we laughed.
After dinner, she asked, “I never gave you a chance, did I?”
I paused. It wasn’t required. I would have arrived anyway.”
She stared down, gently shredding napkins. Perhaps I wanted someone to fight. My dad leaving enraged me. Mad at my mom for moving on. “You were just there.”
I nodded. “I understand.”
And I did.
In the following months, we constructed something fresh. Something real.
Sometimes tension persisted. She was moody. It was my. We talked, though. To laugh. To pardon.
Livia organized everything for Ana’s birthday. Made a cake. Put up decorations. Even prepared a corny old photo slideshow. A slide showed me holding her 13-year-old school project.
The caption read: “The guy who stayed.”
Ana wept. So did I. Quietly.
Next came the twist.
Lawyers called me in January.
My father died. We were far. We split after his remarriage after my mother’s death. He apparently left me in his will. Plus something unexpected.
Left me the family cottage. My childhood haunt. I hadn’t visited in years.
At first, I wanted to sell. Too many memories. Too far.
But Livia had other ideas.
She heard Ana and me talking and discovered it accidently.
She suggested fixing it. You know, together.”
I blinked. Want to improve the cabin?
She shrugged. “You built bridges for 11 years. Maybe I should construct one too.”
So we did.
We drove there every spring weekend. Cleaned. Painted. Roof repaired. Old rubbish burned. Laughed at cupboard mice.
Summer brought a new look.
The porch was our spot for watching the sunset over the trees. She drank tea. I drank wine.
She informed me, “I never told you, but…” Glad you married Mom.”
I remained silent. Just smiled. She said, “She is better with you. I guess I am too.”
I enjoyed my best night’s sleep in years.
She moved back in two years ago.
Her own space now. Visits regularly. Calls more. She brings her boyfriend. He’s decent. I monitor him.)
She gave me a Father’s Day card.
The message read: To the man who loved me every day despite not having to.
I framed it.
Sometimes love takes time. Sometimes patience, grace, and lasagna are needed.
Definitely worth it.
Every minute. Every tear. Every awkward quiet.
Continue building a bridge with someone. It takes longer to finish some bridges. When finished, they’re stronger than expected.
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